fighting the invader

Thursday, April 23, 2009

Hello, my name is Emma. I have been writing on here as Mags for my Aunty Kate (Poodle as I call her on here).
I am so very sorry to inform you that Kate passed away yesterday (Wednesday 22nd April) at around 3 30pm.
She had her mum and her husband by her side when she passed away peacefully. It is the only comfort I have to give.

She was amazing and I am so proud of her as I know all who knew her will agree.
I miss her more then I ever fathomed possible and this is a great sadness on anyone who knew her.

Leave comments if you wish I will publish them for you and they will be up on here online.

If you need to know funeral dates and times leave a comment on here with contact details and I will contact you.

I am also very sorry if you personally knew her and we have not found a way to contact you more personally sooner then on here.

Thank you so much for all your support and well wishes and for reading such an amazing person's blog.

Thank you

xxx

Labels: We all knew there would be no happy ending

43 Comments:

At 11:29 AM , Vicky said...

Im so sorry to hear this news - Kate helped and advised me so much when my mum was diagnosed before Xmas (unfortunately my mum is no longer with us either) and we appreciated it so much.

Thanks Kate for everything - it meant the world to me. Sleep tight

Vicky aka Delivic from BCC Site
At 11:56 AM , Clare said...

RIP dear Kate

An amazing woman that I am proud to have known even if it was only through BCpals and Facebook.

I will never forget you

Clare xx
At 12:31 PM , Dawn said...

Rest in peace Kate. You will be sorely missed by so many people and your words of wisdom will also be missed.

You have been such a courageous and an amazing lady, with so much compassion and strength. I have found all your posts on BCC and BCPals so helpful and at times comforting, amusing and sensitive.

Condolences to all your family and friends, there will be such a void in their lives now that you have gone.

Goodnight Kate - will miss you.
Dawn
xxxx
At 12:33 PM , Anonymous said...

I'm so so very sorry to read this posting. I've followed Kates blog for a while now and I hope it can be some comfort to her family that Kate has been an inspiration to many.

My thoughts and prayers are with Kates family. x
At 12:35 PM , Unknown said...

Hi Emma this is Wendy one of Kate's Southampton friends. I had already heard the news but thank you for your lovely post. We are all devastated and our thoughts are with you and all of Kate's family. She was amazing and I know that this blog has given hope and inspiration to so many people - we will probably never know how many. In January on this site Kate posted a list of things that made her happy and I have often looked back on this - it cheers me a little. I know that many of us will say that our lives are better for knowing Kate - she will never be forgotten. Love to you all
At 12:37 PM , Anonymous said...

oh no I am so sorry. I have followed Kates blog and breast cancer care. She was a very inspirational girl who has helped me and many others on this awful journey. God bless her and her beautiful family
Kayty x (hudds)
At 1:02 PM , LynB1 said...

I have just read this awful news on BCC. Kate was one amazing, courageous lady, who lived for her family and friends. She was so brave, and she inspired so many of us. God bless you, Kate. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. You will be missed.
At 1:17 PM , Jean said...

I was so saddened to hear the news about Kate. We hadn't been FB friends very long and were united through Breast Buddies. I have followed Kate's blog. She truly was an amazing woman.
My deepest sympathies go to Kate's family and friends.
R.I.P sweet lady, resting in the arms of the angels, free from all pain.
At 2:56 PM , sammyh said...

I'm very sad to hear this- our porr gobby gang has lost it's founding member

Please let us know when the funeral is.

thank you the lovely post, it must be such an awful time for you and Kate's family

much love

sam
At 2:58 PM , Anonymous said...

Helen said...
I have known Kate for almost 30 year. She was a truely remarkable and inspirational person, and will be greatly missed by all who new her. It gives me comfort to know she passed away with all the people she truely loved. May she rest in peace.
At 3:48 PM , Anonymous said...

One lady who will never be forgotton. She always said she wanted to make a difference and we all know that she succeeded. I can not believe that this disease has finally taken her....her fight was truly amazing as was the rest of our lovely friend....I will miss her dearly...

Love Heather
At 4:37 PM , Jules said...

I like many have followed Kates Journey and was amazed at the courage and dignity Kate has shown throughout her horrendous illness. I think we all expected some miracle to come along and Kate to go on forever. Sadly this was not to be.

Kate was very kind to me when my mum was dx with cancer last year and I also had a lump which was investigated which turned out to be benign.

Kate you were one hell of lady!!

RIP in peace dear Kate.

My condolonces and kind wishes go to all of Kate's family at this sad time and to her other family, "The Gobby Gang".

Jules aka Jules64 from BCC.
At 5:02 PM , karen said...

Such very sad news, Kate was so very inspirational to everyone and such a amazing lady.

My sincere condolences to her family, another young life cut short by cancer.

Rest in peace Kate.....we will all miss you so very much.
xx
At 6:26 PM , Anonymous said...

Kate was an inspiration to so many people and such a caring person to others. I will miss her so much. My thoughts are with her family now and I will always be there for Pete and the children. I was supposed to be seeing her today. My biggest regret is not being able to say goodbye, so goodbye Kate, sleep tight. Sue (childminder)
At 6:45 PM , bionicwoman said...

Am so sorry to hear this news. Kate has been a huge inspiration and support to me with her blog and posts on BCC. I met her just once, in Feb in Bristol and am so pleased I got that chance. I hope in time that her amazing blog will help her family to cope with such a loss.
Rest in peace Kate. You will be sorely missed.
My heart goes out to her husband and family of which she was obviously so proud.
Anne x
At 6:51 PM , Anonymous said...

I am so sorry to read that we have lost our Kate. Kate was truly an amazing young woman who battled until the very end this horrible disease called breast cancer. Despite what Kate herself was going through, she always had a kind word for a newbie or an encouraging post for someone having a rough time of it. Kate will be greatly missed. Rest in peace sweet Kate. My deepest heartfelt sympathies to your family and friends.
You will live on in our hearts forever.
love and hugs
Karen
At 7:38 PM , Tish Birch said...

Thanks Emma, even though we knew this was coming it was such a shock. I think she pulled through so many 'scares' that we thought she was truely invincible and would live forever! She will be truely missed, her memory lives on though as an inspiration to all that she touched.
Please do let me know the funeral arrangements, tish.birch@virgin.net. Thank you and bless you and your family xxxxxxx
At 7:43 PM , Anonymous said...

I have been following the Gobby Gang for the past 2 years and was so inspired by the strength and determination that Kate had to fight this dreadful disease. She fought and fought to receive treatment after treatment and never gave up for one self-less reason to be alive for her wonderful husband, children, mother, sister and the many friends that she has.
To your wonderful family and friends I hope that in time as your pain eases that you can go through your memory boxes that Kate put so much time and love into and know how much she truly loves you. She will always be with you in your hearts and I know that she will never be forgotten.
It is not very often in life that you meet someone who is as unique, talented and special as Kate is. She is now at peace - Bless you Kate.
Much love,
Nxxxx
At 9:09 PM , miffy said...

Kate was such an inspirational and courageous lady to so many people. Her memory will live on. Was supposed to be visiting Kate today. Very upset that I couldn't say goodbye. I will always be there for Pete and the children if needed. Will miss you. Sue (childminder)
At 10:39 PM , Anonymous said...

So long Wonderwoman.... you have been and will always be an inspiration.

Amanda Noon
At 11:20 PM , Unknown said...

juliet66 juliet66 says on 24 Apr 2009 00:16

Everything I want to write seems so trite.
May all who know Kate recognise how truly inspirational her posts were to so many women.
They were so full of insight and everday wisdom. They offered support and practical help to those floundering in the wash of this crappy disease.
The minutae of her everyday life, whilst coping with all of this, proved an invaluable example of hope, intelligence and courage in the face of adversity.
I know Kate wondered why she was so revered. Well that is why. We wonder how we can cope with the everyday. She provided us with a living example.
Rest peacefully Kate. If your role was to make a difference, well you did.More than you will ever know. Julie x
At 7:22 AM , Anonymous said...

From Terryj and Kathy in Spain.

Love to you all, we are going through this trying time now.

XX
At 7:45 AM , Anonymous said...

I am one of the many, many people who were helped by Kate's blog and her postings in the forums. I never met her; I didn't post. But her postings helped me through my treatment. She was a lady who made a real difference to so many people's lives. I wanted to pay a tribute to Kate and let her family know that she helped and supported so many people, more than she ever knew.
At 2:38 PM , Linda said...

I am so sorry to hear this news. I have followed Kate's amazing story since 2007. Throughout all Kate's illness she has been supportive to anyone who needed it. Kate always knew the right things to say, always straight but gentle, never failed to give words of comfort and wisdom. I did not know Kate personally but admired her, she gave everyone inspiration through her courage and strength. Thank you Kate x. You will be the brightest star. You will be missed by many people. Thinking of all Kate's family and friends, love to you all.

Linda
At 2:46 PM , Anonymous said...

Rest in peace eternal Kate.

A battle well fought with courage and dignity. May your soul fly free.

Every blessing to you and all who love you.

Sharon xx
At 5:09 PM , Anonymous said...

This is such sad news.

I lost my friend to Cancer last year and Kate's take on life and this awful illness reminded me so much of her; she was a fighter and an inspiration to the end too.

Dear Kate you have left your family so very much to be proud of and I hope they take some comfort in the knowledge you touched so many people's lives. When the dreadful pain they will be feeling now eases, I hope they will remember you with smiles of which you are so deserving.

Sleep well x
At 6:00 PM , Anonymous said...

She was amazing and I loved her more then i think she ever knew. I truly do not know how to cope without her. she was so organized with everything and i miss her telling us all what to do. I just miss her so so so much and I just am so shocked. I guess I always thought she would get through it.

She was so amazing and I am trying hard to do all i can for her on here and facebook. I will eventually go on her BCpals website i think in time.

I just wish I could have been with her once more...I just cannot believe she is gone.

My family and I are very grateful for your comments and support you have given us in this time

I will do all I can for my uncle and my cousins, everything my aunt wanted from me i will try to uphold.

Thank you all again

Her Niece Emma

xxx
At 6:29 PM , Angela said...

So sad to hear this news about Kate. I am so sorry that I wasn't able to come and see her before she went, but am sure that she would have understood. Please let us know about the funeral details as I would like to be able to say bye to her properly.
Love to all of Kate's family
Ange from work
xxxx
At 7:06 PM , Dawn said...

I'm really sorry to hear the news that Kate passed away on Wednesday. I met Kate through BCC 3 years ago and we met up one time for a bit of shopping and lunch. She was such a friendly person and like so many people have said she always had encouraging and positive things to say.

She will be sorely missed on BCC and BCPals.

God bless her. My thoughts are with her family at this time.

Spike (BCC)
At 7:28 PM , Anonymous said...

Goodbye Phenomenal Woman.You have given so much to so many on this difficult journey.
Love to all your family
At 8:04 PM , Anonymous said...

I was so sorry to hear this news, Kate was an amazing person who was a real inspiration to so many people. I have been following Kates' blog for sometime and feel really lucky to have known her even though we never met, please take some comfort in that she has made a real difference and touched so many people far more probably than she has realized.
My thoughts are with her family and friends at this sad time.
Chris
At 8:29 PM , Anonymous said...

Praying for you all. I never met Kate but followed her blog. She was an amazing woman.
At 7:35 PM , Anonymous said...

My heartfelt condolences to all who cared and loved Kate. Kate gave so much and was held in high regard; I was dreading reading this.

My thoughts are with Kate's family
Sincerely
x x x
At 11:50 PM , tracyb said...

There arent words to describe how sad this news is. Kate was a very special lady and a very special part of the gobby gang.
Please do let us no when the funeral is.
RIP kate and my love and thoughts are with your family.xxx
At 12:19 AM , Zena said...

Dear Pete, Laura, Woody, AJ, Emma, Kate's Sister, Mum, Grandma, Nieces & Nephews,

I am gutted that Kate has died. I lost my beautiful Mum 3 weeks ago : (
Last week finding myself empty handed I looked to see how 'Dippykate' was doing.
I was, to be honest, surprised at how hard I found it to take in that she was clearly coming to the end of her journey. I had never made contact with her but I realised that over the last 2 years Kate has been quite a big part of my inner life. My Mum was a very positive person but she never opened up much about how she might have really been feeling, & I used Kate's posts as an insight into my Mum's own mind.
Kate was a life buoy for me as I helped to look after my Mum. The thought of her always brought a ray of sunshine into my mind.
I am reposting the note I wrote her last week before confirmation of her passing:

"Hello DippyKate,   I am a total stranger to you but I have been reading your posts on breastcancercare since the 2nd half of 2007. I just want to say, I love you & the way you write.  I never forget the first time I came across one of your posts - your funny name stood out like a beacon.  Well it is great to put a face to the name.  Thank you for all your virtual support. "

I can't say enough Thank yous.
xxxZena
At 8:33 AM , Anonymous said...

I am so saddend by the news of Kate's passing. What an amazing person she was and what an inspiration to so many people, she really did touch the hearts of everydody. Her family will be devastated and my thoughts go out to them all especially her children, what a void in their lives!When i posted on the bcc site about when my sister died kate replied saying how my story had touched here and how she was worried for her own sister, i guess like me she has not only lost a sister but her best friend.
I hope you find my sister in heaven kate! Rest in peace angel.Laura x
At 3:57 PM , sueinspain said...

I only "knew" Kate from reading her blog, she came across as a brave, intelligent and compassionate lady who I know must have inspired and supported so many others.

My thoughts and love to her family and friends ..

Sue x
At 4:15 PM , Anonymous said...

From Kate's Hubby.
Thankyou for all your support. We are bearing up well. The kids are amazing. they have lost so much yet the burden of four years of uncertainty has been lifted from them.
The funeral will be on the 7th of May. All are welcome. I will post again with further detail as know.
At 6:15 PM , nj said...

I feel lost without you to help me through my secondaries diagnosis, Kate. I have followed the ups and downs of your story via bcpals and marvelled at your abilty to keep pulling yourself back from the brink. But sadly this evil disease has finally robbed your family and friends of your presence - you will be greatly missed.

Rest in peace, my brave cyberfriend.

nj x
At 10:02 PM , Anonymous said...

So Sorry to here this News, Kate also helped me, through her posts on BCC. My Love and Sympathy goes out to her Family.
You will be missed so so much.
Thankyou Kate for helping me and many others.
Goodnight and Godbless.
Tracey
At 10:14 PM , Debbie said...

Hi Emma

so very sorry to here about Kate, my thoughts are with you all at this sad sad time. I was part of the Gobby Gang on BCC site. If you could please let us know when the funeral is.

Debbie XX
At 9:47 PM , Anonymous said...

What can I say except what an exceptional woman Kate was. Why is life so cruel?

God Bless

Valkyrie
At 6:15 PM , Catherine Lewis said...

I am so very sorry to hear this devastating news. Kate touched so many people's lives in so many and varied ways. It has been a very great privilege to know her and I will always remember with great warmth the fun we had together. The invader may have won the battle, but Kate fought her corner valiantly and in doing so has inspired and supported so many others. Sleep peacefully, dearest Chuck.

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